The Holiday Blues: What They Are and How to Deal with Them

The holiday season is a time that is filled with many mixed emotions. Ideally, this time of year means quality time with the people we love, building memories and enjoying family rituals. However, for many, this time of year comes with a harsh reminder of what we are missing, the losses in our life, and the challenging family dynamics we continue to navigate. If you are finding the holiday season particularly hard, you are not alone. In fact, you might be experiencing what is commonly known as the “holiday blues.”

What are the holiday blues?

The holiday blues are symptoms of depression that is correlated to the change in routine that comes with the holiday season. The holiday blues can be caused by a number of factors, including:

• Feeling overwhelmed by all that needs to be done during the holidays.

• Feeling additional pressure to “connect”, which can be stressful for someone who is feeling disconnected on an emotional level or in times when the people are are expected to connect with are not the most mental healthy or regulated people.

• Missing loved ones who are not able to be with you during the holidays.

• The increased financial strain that comes with buying gifts and travel expenses.

• Negative associations with past holidays.

If you find yourself feeling down during the holidays, there are a number of things you can do, including:

• Taking breaks from holiday shopping and party- planning to relax and do something you enjoy.

• Saying “no” to people and places that do not serve you and your well being.

• Make a plan when going into events that are draining - have a specific time you are going to leave and stick to it. Bring someone along that feels supportive to you. 

• Reaching out to friends and family members for support and conversation who you feel safe and supported by.

• Staying active and participating in regular exercise. 

• Plan something you are looking forward to.

• Consider making your own new holiday traditions with the people the mean the most to you.

• Volunteer - focusing on others can help us shift our attention from ourselves to others, and who doesn’t like making others feel good!  

The holiday season can be tough. You are not alone. If you’re feeling down during this season, be kind and gentle to yourself. Remember, we do not have to continue to participate in events that are harmful to our wellbeing. Don’t hesitate to reach out if you’re struggling this holiday season.

If you or someone you know is in need of help, please don’t hesitate to reach out to Talk Suicide Canada at 1-833-456-4566.

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